Maybe not the right forum for this, but I find it interesting how often we seem to use "boy/girl" and not "man/woman" (not calling you out in particular, it just sparked my thought <3 ). As a clinical psychologist, the thinking/emoting/relating bits of transgenderism and transition are endlessly fascinating to me (with a healthy helping …
Maybe not the right forum for this, but I find it interesting how often we seem to use "boy/girl" and not "man/woman" (not calling you out in particular, it just sparked my thought <3 ). As a clinical psychologist, the thinking/emoting/relating bits of transgenderism and transition are endlessly fascinating to me (with a healthy helping of "of course we all get into doing therapy because we really need it ourselves" :P ). I do the same thing, btw - I am far more comfortable referring to myself as a "girl" than a "woman." My untested and unconfirmed speculation is that our "transition" into adulthood never really addressed a lot of the core needs and identity issues that girls face every day growing up (as opposed to those boys face, which we did experience and reached nominal "manhood" as poorly as that may have fit). And I wonder if, in ten years, I will feel more comfortable identifying as a "woman" than a "girl."
That aside, I add my continuing thanks for Doc's ever insightful writings (and have to admit, redfaced, that despite being peripherally aware that the Matrix was regarded as heavily influenced by transgender ideology, I didn't catch it when I was younger and haven't revisited it since my own eggcrack - so this is an interesting line for me to dig deeper as well!).
I'm nonbinary and transfemme. Boy and man are absolutely repulsive, and woman feels inaccurate, but girl fits me. I think it's because lots of queer folks use girl for lots of other queer folks so the implication is less binary, who knows though.
I use “boy/girl” when talking about the process of transitioning the fleshmeats, and “man/woman” when talking about who I am. I don’t know why, though.
Maybe not the right forum for this, but I find it interesting how often we seem to use "boy/girl" and not "man/woman" (not calling you out in particular, it just sparked my thought <3 ). As a clinical psychologist, the thinking/emoting/relating bits of transgenderism and transition are endlessly fascinating to me (with a healthy helping of "of course we all get into doing therapy because we really need it ourselves" :P ). I do the same thing, btw - I am far more comfortable referring to myself as a "girl" than a "woman." My untested and unconfirmed speculation is that our "transition" into adulthood never really addressed a lot of the core needs and identity issues that girls face every day growing up (as opposed to those boys face, which we did experience and reached nominal "manhood" as poorly as that may have fit). And I wonder if, in ten years, I will feel more comfortable identifying as a "woman" than a "girl."
That aside, I add my continuing thanks for Doc's ever insightful writings (and have to admit, redfaced, that despite being peripherally aware that the Matrix was regarded as heavily influenced by transgender ideology, I didn't catch it when I was younger and haven't revisited it since my own eggcrack - so this is an interesting line for me to dig deeper as well!).
It took me years to move from "girl" to "woman," myself. For me, at least, "Girl" was a less... well, huge idea than "woman."
I dunno, though.
I'm nonbinary and transfemme. Boy and man are absolutely repulsive, and woman feels inaccurate, but girl fits me. I think it's because lots of queer folks use girl for lots of other queer folks so the implication is less binary, who knows though.
I use “boy/girl” when talking about the process of transitioning the fleshmeats, and “man/woman” when talking about who I am. I don’t know why, though.