Our conception of self has moved from cis man (just effeminate, I swear), to bi-gender (both? How both?), to binary trans woman (riddle solved!), to plural transfeminine system (THOSE alters are non-binary, but WE'RE not), to now non-binary plural trans woman (okay yeah, that last parenthetical was silly). That last step "back" to non-bi…
Our conception of self has moved from cis man (just effeminate, I swear), to bi-gender (both? How both?), to binary trans woman (riddle solved!), to plural transfeminine system (THOSE alters are non-binary, but WE'RE not), to now non-binary plural trans woman (okay yeah, that last parenthetical was silly). That last step "back" to non-binary was surprisingly hard. Our (purely anecdotal) guess is that it's related to this sense of always having to perform/prove our gender. To have landed on binary woman, and then expand outside those borders feels scary, because it feels like we left room to be called "not a woman." We're still a woman, but also faegender.
Also, thank you for the research paper on the intersectionality of being trans and plural.
Our conception of self has moved from cis man (just effeminate, I swear), to bi-gender (both? How both?), to binary trans woman (riddle solved!), to plural transfeminine system (THOSE alters are non-binary, but WE'RE not), to now non-binary plural trans woman (okay yeah, that last parenthetical was silly). That last step "back" to non-binary was surprisingly hard. Our (purely anecdotal) guess is that it's related to this sense of always having to perform/prove our gender. To have landed on binary woman, and then expand outside those borders feels scary, because it feels like we left room to be called "not a woman." We're still a woman, but also faegender.
Also, thank you for the research paper on the intersectionality of being trans and plural.
I'm glad I could help you feel seen a little better. 💜