i love this so so much. i'm also a trans survivor of abuse, though i've only very recently turned 18 and i'm still mostly trying not to die rather than being able to start healing. my transition was really the only thing i had that i could hold on to through the worst of the abuse, and my own gender journey - an ongoing *becoming* with no clear end - also made me a far more vibrant person, broken but whole. even when i was otherized and objectified on the basis of my transness, even through a lot of the abuse i went through was done to me because i was trans - my transness and my transition offered me a lifeline i could hold on to even through the darkest of times. i'm still very much in the broken phase of the stained glass analogy, and most nights i feel like i'll never make it out, but - aa. this piece made me feel hopeful for my future again. i love this, your writing is absolutely beautiful :D
this was such a nice read, as a gal in a non accepting country/society this honestly gave me hope for the future, so thank you. I know I still have a long way to go but i can do this!
I'm also in a very fortunate position. Lucky to be able to offer support, especially to those building all of us up (or to those feeling particularly down). SGW is indeed a gift that I value.
How can we support you? I tried sending you money (paid subscription) and my only option was to subscribe for free. While I always appreciate a bargain, I'm moved by the way you combine directness, clarity, 'hard' truths and the sanctuary of loving acceptance.
SGW is a gift back to the community that has given me so, so much--.it is and will always be free.I'm one of the lucky few trans people who are financially stable. I don't need the financial support.
If you feel the need to demonstrate your appreciation in that way, donate to the transition fund of someone who needs it. 💜
Just over a year ago, when I was just starting to accept myself as trans, I wrote a lengthy piece I called From the Shards. I used a similar description as you -- shattered, broken into pieces. And while I never drew the connection to stained glass I definitely did feel a lot like I was trying to build a new self from the pieces. Collect one piece at a time, find a place it fit, figure out what it meant after all this time.
There's still a lot of pieces buried all about, I'm sure, and I'm finding them as I go. Perhaps one day I'll also make some stained glass out of them. It's a wonderful image, thank you so much :3
i love this so so much. i'm also a trans survivor of abuse, though i've only very recently turned 18 and i'm still mostly trying not to die rather than being able to start healing. my transition was really the only thing i had that i could hold on to through the worst of the abuse, and my own gender journey - an ongoing *becoming* with no clear end - also made me a far more vibrant person, broken but whole. even when i was otherized and objectified on the basis of my transness, even through a lot of the abuse i went through was done to me because i was trans - my transness and my transition offered me a lifeline i could hold on to even through the darkest of times. i'm still very much in the broken phase of the stained glass analogy, and most nights i feel like i'll never make it out, but - aa. this piece made me feel hopeful for my future again. i love this, your writing is absolutely beautiful :D
I'm so, so glad. <3
Remember: You're not beautiful in spite of being broken. You're beautiful *because* you're broken.
this was such a nice read, as a gal in a non accepting country/society this honestly gave me hope for the future, so thank you. I know I still have a long way to go but i can do this!
You can!
Wow, this made me cry. (in a good way) Hits close to home. Thank you.
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I'm also in a very fortunate position. Lucky to be able to offer support, especially to those building all of us up (or to those feeling particularly down). SGW is indeed a gift that I value.
How can we support you? I tried sending you money (paid subscription) and my only option was to subscribe for free. While I always appreciate a bargain, I'm moved by the way you combine directness, clarity, 'hard' truths and the sanctuary of loving acceptance.
SGW is a gift back to the community that has given me so, so much--.it is and will always be free.I'm one of the lucky few trans people who are financially stable. I don't need the financial support.
If you feel the need to demonstrate your appreciation in that way, donate to the transition fund of someone who needs it. 💜
This hits pretty close to home 😅
Just over a year ago, when I was just starting to accept myself as trans, I wrote a lengthy piece I called From the Shards. I used a similar description as you -- shattered, broken into pieces. And while I never drew the connection to stained glass I definitely did feel a lot like I was trying to build a new self from the pieces. Collect one piece at a time, find a place it fit, figure out what it meant after all this time.
There's still a lot of pieces buried all about, I'm sure, and I'm finding them as I go. Perhaps one day I'll also make some stained glass out of them. It's a wonderful image, thank you so much :3
I’m heading to Barcelona in April for ffs, hopefully there’s time for a visit to see the stained glass toox
I can't recommend it highly enough, obviously.
And I had FFS with Facial Team too (in Marbella). So excited for you!