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Angela Dawn's avatar

my autistic unmasking led to my gender unmascing. once i got to the place where i could comfortably say 'i am autistic', it was only a matter of months that my gender was freely accessible to me.

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Kay Alexander's avatar

The relatively recent experience of spending a lot of time with LGBT people at an educators' conference (written about on my own SubStack) was profoundly beneficial because so many of them (especially those in their 20s) weren't masking nearly as much as anyone my age (over 40), and I was able to see that what people had often told me was ASC (in me) was far more likely to be untreated CPTSD.

I'm still seeking treatment but it's been an immense relief to be able to be so candid about this with other trans people who have been figuring out their own coping strategies, doing their own research, and getting their own treatment.

On a separate note, Doc, only days after I commented on one of your pieces that I'd had a particularly bad coming out to my colleagues (bearing out the value of your advice), I did manage to have something of a reset by posting on a Staff bulletin board my new e-mail address (that week), as well as my pronouns and full name which hadn't been disseminated as clearly, months before. It was the start of Trans History Week so I posted a few suggestions for how we could integrate it into our lessons, and the result was, as one colleague, "...the most hearted message in living memory."

Thanks, again, for all you do here : )

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