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Janet Logan's avatar

I too loved the Nemesis series. And this article resonates with me. "My trauma has not made me stronger—while I have found strength again, of a sort, it’s not the same as I might’ve been before." Indeed. Trauma doesn't make anyone stronger. At least not in my experience. We discover strength we never knew we had, as a result of that trauma. At least those of us who survive it do.

Blessed Be Doc.

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Wendy Beal's avatar

When I tell people who my heroes are, I'm usually trying to make a point.

If we're explicitly talking about "heroes" here, maybe I should call these my "favorite people," which is certainly more accurate. When I tell people that these are my "heroes," I want them to understand that I don't put much stock in supermen. I want them to understand that we don't need supermen, we need ordinary people.

My heroes aren't just flawed, they're ordinary.

They are people who know there's no way they could be the best person for the job, and know they are going to make mistakes, but choose to do the task anyway, because it needs to be done.

Now quite often they do get some "reward" out of it. People praise them for stepping up, tell them how much they are admired and how they are just what was needed.

Rather than a benefit, this just makes it harder for them to do what needs done, because they aren't stupid.

They know that they are going to screw up, and when they do, these people are going to scorn them, ask them how they could have been so irresponsible; tell them how much they have been let down.

This makes doing the tasks just so much harder. They do them anyway, because the work needs done.

These are my favorite people. They embody what I want all of us to be.

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