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Adrienne Harper's avatar

This is a great resource that I may refer to if I have to end up moving away from Indiana at some point in the future (preferably Illinois as that's still close enough to visit my supportive family on holidays). Although it'll be made harder by the fact that I've been having an insurance predicament (simply put: neither informed consent HRT location is covering the insurance provider I switched to in November--even though the insurance marketplace said THAT insurance plan would cover THAT specific location; and that insurance company is not even listed on the Psychology website listed in this article) that means I may have to go back on DIY HRT until I have a job that can pay for HRT out-of-pocket.

So I got a lot of things terrifying me right now. Particularly insurance, anti-trans legislature, and not feeling sure if I can handle living alone in a new environment.

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Abby's avatar

Great article, I've got a huge amount from reading your writing here and I really appreciate you taking the time to address this one. I'm a therapist myself and have been on the receiving end of a lot of bad and mediocre and a small amount of very good therapy.

Unfortunately you're right about the complexity of psychological issues which means that even a very good therapist might take some time to find the right place to work with a client or the right angle to take, and similarly even the most committed client might find it difficult to find the right way to articulate and explore the right topics. When all goes well this becomes an effective and collaborative process between both parties, but damn it can be hard to get there.

It's further complicated by the fact that you can have a very good rapport with a therapist but still not make any progress if their approach or way of working just doesn't reach the areas that need to be addressed. I unfortunately wasted quite a bit of time with therapists who were genuinely doing their best and who I felt understood and supported by, but were not pushing me into the areas of myself that actually needed work.

I desperately wish that therapy was more readily available and that more therapists better understood their blind spots and endeavoured to address them.

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